I am die hard fan of the TV show This Is Us. During this season on the show, (spoiler alert) one of the main couples have been having some tough marital problems. It’s been especially upsetting as they seemed to be so strong, so in love with each other. I was sadly beginning to wonder if this would be the end of their relationship. On the season finale a few weeks ago, there is a scene where the couple’s oldest daughter tells her dad that when it comes to wives he won the lottery so whatever has come between them needs to be fixed. He took her advice, and luckily, I didn’t have to wait until the fall to learn that they do stay together, though I’m sure the writers will have other tear jerking plot lines ready for the new season.
Fortunately, my life has much less drama than this TV show, but those words were ones I could really relate to. When it comes to husbands, I won the lottery too. I won’t go into details here, but my childhood was pretty rough and I went through some bad romantic relationships when I was a young adult. However when I was 24, I was so incredibly blessed to meet my life prize, the man that I would later marry.
I’ve told him that if I saw our personality characteristics on paper or a dating website, I would never think of us as a good match. He was much more athletic and physical (at least before his health issues caught up to him) than I ever thought about being. I was the kid who was the last pick in gym class, not the star of the team. He’s eight years older than I am and got married for the first time when I was still in elementary school, so we really grew up in different decades. When he gets mad, it comes on quick, burns intensely, and dies out just as fast. It takes a lot more for me to get angry, but once I get there, I need to simmer for awhile. He pays a lot of attention to details and I am a big picture person, but in spite of all this, we work incredibly well as a couple.
Bryan and I talk about what we think makes our marriage so good and one thing we always come back to is that each of us feels lucky to have the other. We treasure one another and treat each other accordingly. After being together for almost 27 years, we both love spending time together. We make each other laugh, usually at the goofiest things, and I know when I’m with him I can completely be myself, flaws and all, and still be totally loved and accepted. He knows the same.
Saturday is Husband Appreciation Day. There are not enough words to express to him how thankful I am to have him as my partner in life. It’s even better than winning the lottery.