I want to send a special shout out this morning to my own dad in Heaven and all the dads out there. I think fathers are so important in the lives of their kids. I also want to say a special thanks to my husband. He had two boys from a previous relationship who were two and five when we met and I told him in his card this morning that one of the first things I knew about him was how much he loved his kids.
Fast forward twenty-six years and I still know how much he loves his kids. I see this demonstrated every day in his relationship with our son, Joshua. I generally don’t write about this, but Joshua is twenty-two and autistic. Like many autistic young adults, he struggles with anxiety and depression. He is also highly functioning and I’m so proud of the young man he has become. He is working part-time, has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for over a year, graduated from a vocational program last month, and will be taking community college courses for credit this fall.
I’ve thought about writing about my own struggles parenting an adult who still sometimes needs extra guidance and support. It’s sometimes hard to know when to step back and when to step in. My husband is disabled due to some issues with his neck and because of this and a horrible case of restless leg syndrome, he often doesn’t sleep well. However, in spite of being in constant pain and extremely tired most of the time, Bryan is an amazing husband and father. He is firm when he needs to be, gives Joshua great advice and guidance, and is amazingly patient. I can’t think of any other man who could be half the father to Joshua that Bryan has been. I am especially thankful this Father’s Day for the blessing of these two men in my life.